"Bullying" arises from a lack of empathy and respect. One of its key characteristics is the repetitive nature of teasing and aggression—essentially, aggressiveness. Aggressiveness involves violent behaviors or attitudes intended to cause harm or achieve a specific goal; it can be likened to an "uncontrolled tantrum." However, it's important to note that a "tantrum" is an inappropriate behavior aimed at achieving a goal, but it doesn't necessarily result in harm.
In essence, both "bullying" and "tantrums" are behavioral issues stemming from poor habit formation based on values.
What are Values?
Values are universal agreements that dictate our attitudes and behaviors, outlining how we should act and interact with others. They must be practiced consistently to become habits and integrate into our ways of thinking, feeling, speaking, and acting.
Today, bullying is not only a concern in schools but also persists at home. We must recognize that, often, we inadvertently harm our children verbally, physically, and psychologically through our thoughts, words, and actions.
So, is it bullying when parents mistreat their children? The answer is yes. Parents frequently mistreat their children verbally and psychologically, justifying such behavior under the guise of love, without realizing that words significantly shape a child's reality.
It all begins at home. If parents are unaware of the words they use with their child, they cannot expect their child to exhibit empathy toward others.
Remember the words of Mahatma Gandhi:
"Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become your character."
Words have the power to nurture growth or impose limitations. It's crucial to choose our words carefully and be mindful of their consequences. Often, the best choice is to remain silent.
