The key difference between obedience and self-control lies in who maintains control: oneself or another.
In other words, when a class is described as obedient, it implies that the teacher holds authority, often achieving compliance through threats or punishments. For example:
- "Be quiet and fold your arms."
- "Put your arms behind your back."
- "You can't sit with your friend Pedro."
- "If you keep this up, I’ll mark it down and call your parents."
- "You’ve lost your recess."
- "Shh, be silent."
Conversely, a class demonstrates self-control when students learn to manage their emotions and impulses, taking charge of their own actions. This process doesn’t rely on negotiations, rewards, threats, or punishments. Self-control cannot exist without clear rules.
Students understand the established rules and adhere to them. They also grasp the "whens," meaning they are aware of the appropriate times to play, ask questions, focus, work, rest, and more.
